Preparation For Union
1:1 mentorship for women all the way from single → married who are ready to stop repeating relationship patterns and become the woman who can create and sustain real, lasting union.
[3 spaces available]
Whatever stage of relationship you’re at, this work will meet you there —
-
You're done attracting emotionally unavailable men who’s favourite expression is “you’re amazing but I’m just not ready to commit”.
You're done letting yourself get caught up in potential, chasing that version of him you just know he could be.
You’re done feeling anxious and confused, and questioning your worth.
You're done accepting breadcrumbs, obsessing over texts and timelines, and wondering if he'll ever show up.
For you this work is about learning how to date and relate with emotional maturity, confidence, dignity, and discernment.
It’s about evolving that deep self-awareness you have into radical self-responsibility, while simultaneously surrendering up what is not yours to control.
And it’s about learning how to date from your worth, instead of from your wounds.
I know how deeply you are longing for partnership, to do life with someone, to fall asleep in the arms of someone who sees you and loves you as you are. Hold that prayer, love.
-
You love him so much and you have such a beautiful vision for the life you could have together, but the reality is just… not that.
You over-think, you spiral, there’s constantly stories spinning in your head, and you’re struggling to really trust.
For you this work is about learning how to hold yourself in intimacy - in the big feelings and uncertainties.
It’s about understanding your patterns, needs and triggers, and learning how to discern what is yours to own and tend to, vs what to bring to him - and how to communicate in a way that makes your relationship a place of safety, growth and connection - for both of you.
It’s about becoming the partner you want to be, and learning how to set the tone in your relationship, so that beautiful vision can become a reality.
I know how big that space feels between who and where you are, and who and where you want to be. And I also know you are capable of crossing it.
-
You said yes… and you’re so excited and ready to be a wife…. except you’re also… not?
You’re standing at the edge of the rest of your life, and what you fantasised about so much, now feels so big.
For you, this work is about preparing for true Union.
Your wedding will mark the ending of your maidenhood, and the beginning of your wifehood.
It’s about crossing the threshold from girlfriend to wife with intention, grace, and maturity.
You’re being called to surrender your old identity on the altar, and step forward into the love you were made for. -
Hello, wife!
You’ve said your vows and crossed the threshold into true Union… and you are realising that it truly begins now.
For you this work is about maturing into the mantle of wife.
It’s about cultivating the emotional capacity, discernment, and relational skillset to navigate the realities of life and love as a married woman.
It’s about showing up fully, consciously, and devotedly, so that Union is not just a title, but something you choose to live and embody every single day.
I see you, woman to woman, wife to wife. This is truly going to be the making of you, if you allow it.
This is for you if —
-
You're already highly self-aware
You’re familiar with doing inner work and healing, and you’re far enough on your journey that you understand awareness does not equal transformation. You’re ready to integrate what you know, learn what you don’t, and fully step into the woman you came here to be.
-
You’re not just looking for a quick fix
Nor a list of dating rules, or surface-level advice. You're committed to genuine personal, spiritual and relational growth, and you understand that this work is an on-going process that will continually ask you to show up for it.
-
You're here for Union.
You’re not made for your average societally-approved relationship. You long for a deeply safe, emotionally mature, spiritually aligned partnership, a lasting marriage and to raise your babies consciously. And you’re willing to go counter-culture and do the work required to create and sustain it.
-
You're ready to take responsibility
For your role, your patterns, your triggers, your needs, your wants, and everything that is yours in the realm of relationship. Self-responsibility is the foundation of this work - and you will be met with grace and love every step of the way.
-
I went from totally destroying myself, by putting my romantic relationship before even my own needs. To choosing myself again. Taking scary, bold, exciting leaps. Applying for a course I've always wanted to do, and deciding to travel solo again. All things that have ignited a fire in my belly again, and made me feel excited about the future.With or without a romantic partner, having myself is enough right now.
I found a sense of hope again. Hope that my destiny was greater than what I was experiencing. Hope that I didn't have to settle for something that made me shrink and feel smaller. Hope that there are healthier versions of love out there, and people willing to give it.”
Union isn't something you Find, Fall into or ‘Manifest’, it’s something you create, through who you become.
Become the woman who —
Moves through life and love grounded in herself - not second-guessing every feeling, but steady, stable, and trusting.
Knows what she wants, needs and won’t compromise on, and can communicate them calmly, confidently, and without either apology or entitlement.
Can stay present through conflict instead of shutting down, spiralling, or losing herself. She knows how to repair, how to take responsibility for her part, and how to meet hard moments with maturity, grace, and care.
Shows up as a woman and partner who is open, in her body, and emotionally available for true, honest connection. She’s able to be receptive without self-abandoning, and discerning without closing her heart.
Understands that the tone she sets in dating and relating matters, that what she tolerates, entertains and models teaches men how to meet her.
[3 spaces available]
-
“Working with Amber will truly shift your perspective - and if you let it, it will transform your relationship.
I worked with Amber during a difficult time in my relationship and highly recommend her to anyone looking to improve their connection.
She helped me take responsibility for my role, see my patterns clearly, and communicate more effectively.
Her approach brings insight into the core differences between men and women and the conditioning that shapes how we relate.
It takes two to create a dynamic, but only one to shift it - if a deep, intimate relationship is your desire, Amber will help you set the foundation for that to be a reality.”
every women’s journey in preparation for union is her own, but here’s some of what we’ll explore:
-
Self-Responsibility & Emotional Maturity
Self-responsibility & emotional maturity are the pillars that make true union possible. Become the woman who can hold herself.
-
Relating from Your Womanhood
Deepening in understanding of your woman, and the nuances of male-female differentiation and masculine-feminine dynamics as you relate.
-
The Nervous System & Somatic Awareness
How your nervous system shapes your relational patterns & cultivating the inner safety and embodied presence to stay open, regulated, and connected.
-
Parts, Patterns, Wounds & Beliefs
Learning how to meet your parts, patterns, wounds and unconscious beliefs with grace and love, and integrating them so they’re no longer choosing for you.
-
Relational Skills & Communication
Healthy relating is a skill you continue to hone; the return being the ability to create relationships that are emotionally safe, honest, and oriented towards growth.
-
Spiritual Growth & Faith
At it’s core, this is spiritual work. Union is not just a pretty term, it’s a binding of hearts and lives that will require you to show up at the altar and surrender yourself.
-
Through working with Amber I became so clear on what I was really looking for, what I want to call in, what I’m responsible for & what I want to be responsible for. I got to the end of our time together and knew exactly what to step forward into, how to start dating, how to start showing up as the person that makes me the most proud, and as the woman that will call in the exact sort of man I’m looking for.
She’s a beautiful person to work with and an incredible professional. Highly, highly recommend!”
-
We’ll meet weekly for deep, spacious 1:1 sessions that will meet you exactly where you are.
-
You’ll have access to me via a personal channel Monday to Friday, so you’re supported in life and relationship in real time, not just in session.
-
Tailored somatic, reflective, and relational practices to support integration, embodiment and lasting transformation between sessions.
-
Clear written summaries after each session to help you integrate insights and key takeaways, track and celebrate your progress, and stay anchored in the work.
what you receive:
-
“Amber is an incredible coach for women and couples, and especially for women who are single and longing for a loving partnership. She has supported me deeply on my journey.
Through Amber, I became much more aware of the female cycle and how to work with it and integrate it into daily life. I truly believe that feeling powerful as a woman again starts with understanding her cycle. From this understanding, Amber guided me in recognizing patterns from my past relationships - bringing them into my awareness so I could consciously notice and shift them.
One of the most profound experiences for me was a deep meditation session that Amber guided me through. In that meditation, I saw myself standing in the kitchen of our home, looking out over a large garden, surrounded by lush green grass. I was baking, and my beloved came up behind me and wrapped his arms around me. The feeling was so safe, so loving, so deeply nurturing.
And now, one year later, I am standing here with my beloved by my side - surrounded by that same spacious garden - someone who hugs me every day, makes me feel beautiful, and shows me that I am worthy of love.
Thank you, dear Amber. Through your guidance, I am exactly where I am meant to be.“
Your Investment
3x monthly pay
€800 x 3
pay in full
€2400
-
Amber has a wonderful approach and isn’t shy to point out things people might not want to hear - but in return, her clients have incredible outcomes and are truly thriving in their relationships
When I worked with Amber, I was seeing this guy from my hometown and he ticked all my boxes - but something wasn’t feeling right. It wasn’t a BIG YES.
Amber made it so easy and clear in her approach and insight that if it isn’t a big YES, there’s probably a reason. And it became clear I needed to end it.
A few weeks later I left to go abroad for work as planned, and about a month later I got reintroduced to a guy by a mutual friend — we had actually met 10 years ago but didn’t even remember!
We fell madly in love. Now, a year later, we’re living together and talking about future life plans.”
meet your mentor
Hello love! I’m Amber, a woman, wife and mentor for women who are choosing the path of Union.
I’ve walked every step of the path you’ve on, and I intimately understand the long season of preparation, the shedding of old identities, and the maturation that is required to become truly ready, available, and a match for the kind of relationship you’re longing for.
And I also deeply understand the ache, the frustration at always ‘doing the work’, and all of the self-protective parts, patterns, and beliefs that arise along the path. This walk is not for the faint of heart.
Preparation For Union is the culmination of many years of lived experience, deep inner work, spiritual formation, and professional study. It brings together everything I’ve learned about womanhood, relationship, embodiment, spirituality, and the self-responsibility and surrender required to sustain conscious, covenantal partnership.
4x CERTIFIED COACH | 5+ YEARS EXPERIENCE
MY CLIENTS SAY I AM:
Transformational
•
Safe, Loving Place
•
Miracle Worker
•
Fully Present
•
Inspirational
•
Powerful
•
Radiant Force
•
Grounding
•
Intuitive
•
Gifted
•
Compassionate
•
Real
•
Transformational • Safe, Loving Place • Miracle Worker • Fully Present • Inspirational • Powerful • Radiant Force • Grounding • Intuitive • Gifted • Compassionate • Real •
Frequently Asked Questions
-
1:1 coaching with me within Preparation For Union is highly-individualised, meaning no two journeys look exactly the same.
Whilst there is a loose structure and shared themes for women working towards union partnership, your journey starts exactly where you are and we go from there.
My work blends coaching and mentorship, combining open conversation, guided contemplation, somatic practice, and support with integration and embodiment.You’ll cultivate self-awareness, self-responsibility, self-trust, and self-leadership, because you are your own greatest authority, and I sincerely believe the answers you need already live within you.
At the same time, I bring over a decade of lived experience, five years of coaching practice, and expertise from multiple certifications and trainings.
My clients describe me as warm, loving, safe, fully present, and wildly human.
-
Preparation For Union is a blend of coaching and mentorship, not therapy.
The best way to think about working with with me is like sitting down with a trusted friend who knows you deeply, cares about your growth, and also has guidance and perspective you haven’t discovered yet, and they have deeply integrated and ambodied.
Our sessions will be warm, tender, and non-judgmental… and yes, I’ve likely felt every emotion you’re feeling right now!
-
Of course you are, and I promise you that you are not alone in that.
Growth always asks courage, and fear is part of the process.
I’ll be completely honest with you - it isn’t always going to be the most comfortable experience.
Facing ourselves, really looking at ourselves, can be incredibly confronting.
But it is also one of the most transformative and empowering things we can do.
In PFU, you will be met with with so much grace, safety, and support, while also being gently invited to face what’s necessary for transformation.
You don’t have to go it alone, this is deep work that is meant to be navigated alongside a mentor who knows the path.
One of my clients recently said to me, “This is the most honest relationship I have in my life right now, and I can’t tell you how helpful that is.”
-
It is - and that’s because this is foundational, life-changing work.
Preparation For Union isn’t about quick fixes, it’s about deep and lasting transformation in how you show up in love, relationship, and life.
It is also a highly-personalised 1:1 journey where my full focus, presence, and support are devoted to you. The investment reflects that, as well as the depth of transformation available.
-
Working with me in Preparation For Union is by application only to see if PFU is the right fit for your season and needs.
After I review your application, I will reach out to schedule an Alignment Call, where we’ll get a chance to meet and establish our own relationship, answer any questions you may have, and if everything is aligned, get you enrolled.
-
I coach clients all over the world via Zoom, and have so far been able to make it work with clients spanning the globe from the US - Europe - Middle East - Australia!
My typical coaching hours are:
Tuesdays, Wednesdays & Thursdays between 11am & 6pm CET (Amsterdam time).If these slots are unworkable for you, but you would otherwise be committed to working with me, feel free to send me a DM or email with your location and availability. I do have a very limited number of evening slots available, and may be able to accommodate you.
-
“Working with Amber has been such a gift to myself and my partnership.
Each session is an opportunity for me to turn inwards in new ways. The journey has helped me develop a greater intimacy with myself which has then rippled out so easefully into more intimacy in my relationship.”